April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month! Last year:
We know that victims of child abuse are far more likely to suffer from depression, alcoholism and drug abuse, lead lives of crime, drop out of school, and have violent relationships in their future and we fight to end this vicious cycle. It is up to every member of the community to work towards preventing child abuse before it happens so we can ensure happy, healthy and safe childhoods for all children in New Jersey. Our commitment to ending child abuse begins by ensuring that families have the knowledge, support and skills needed to raise their children. We do this by developing, training and coordinating prevention programs with families, health care providers, educators and other child advocates who interact with families in the very places where children grow, learn and play.
You can help us increase awareness on the importance of child abuse prevention efforts! The pinwheel serves as the symbol of child abuse prevention and is used every April to send messages across the nation. Advocates plant pinwheel gardens, make their own pinwheels, and have fundraisers and events to educate the community about the harms of child abuse and the value of preventing it.
We encourage local businesses, clubs, and agencies to participate in Child Abuse Prevention Month! To order pinwheels or other CAP Month related items, please visit www.preventchildabusenj.org/shop or contact Mihiri Pathirana at 732-246-8060 x.108 or [email protected] .
Have you ever heard of the ACE (adverse childhood experience) study? This was a research study, led by a California health insurance company, Kaiser, which wanted to know more about the links between obesity and earlier health habits during childhood, to see if they could identify better ways of promoting healthy nutrition for their insured members.
The study included 17,000 adults, analyzing events that happened in their childhoods and how things turned out as an adult – not just their weight, but their mental health, their employment and productivity, and even their success in marriage and relationships. What they found is transforming our health care and social service systems, underscoring the need for stronger and better PREVENTION programs, with the support of both the public and private sectors.
The research found that significant stress that occurs during a child’s first 18 years has a profound and long-lasting impact, not only on issues like obesity, but on their overall life expectancy, the risk of diabetes and other chronic health conditions, the likelihood that they will become involved in drugs, alcohol and crime, success in marriage and relationships and even their risk of suicide. What they found was that children who experience more serious stress (“adverse childhood experiences”) in their childhood face substantially greater health challenges as adults. In fact, children who face high levels of stress, such as child abuse, or a parent with a mental illness, may face a shorter life expectancy of almost 20 years! A child who experiences extremely high levels of stress was found to be 460 times more likely than others to become an IV drug user.
The study found that almost 4 in 10 adults have an “ACE index” of 2 or more – meaning the child faced a combination of more than one major stress event, a level which begins to greatly increase the risk of future health risks and problems. Given this surprising prevalence, individuals with high ACE scores are our neighbors, our fellow employees, our friends and our families. Many individuals may be resilient and successful in one or more parts of their lives, but struggle behind the scenes from the lasting impact dating to their childhood.
Further research has confirmed that children who face the most serious stress fill our prisons, emergency rooms, mental health and substance abuse clinics, and unemployment rolls, costing taxpayers billions of dollars each year.
For Prevent Child Abuse NJ, the ACE study highlights the importance of our work focused on preventing harm before it happens. By teaching parents about healthy child development and positive parenting, we build a foundation of healthy behavior that can ensure that children enjoy a happy, safe and healthy childhood, one that every child deserves. We not only prevent child abuse from happening but can help a mom get early prenatal care, build a stronger bond between a mother and her new baby, ensure children receive immunizations, encourage early literacy development and promote positive involvement by both mom and dad.
While most people believe that child abuse would never happen in their community, the ACE study shows that more than 10%, and up to 20%, of all Americans have suffered an incident of child sexual abuse before age 18. Other risk factors, such as serious substance abuse or mental illness are common across demographic factors in all of our communities.
PCANJ works to PREVENT children from experiencing the types of harm that we now know can lead to a lifetime of struggle, disability and even crime. Research shows our programs are effective and .91 cents out of every dollar we raise goes to support direct programs, not fundraising or administration.
You too can help. We need your support to help us reach more children and support more parents with programs that work.
To learn more and how you can get involved, go to our website, www.preventchildabusenj.org; Please consider making a donation, or join us at one of our many events, to support this important work here New Jersey.
How Sexual Predators are Targeting Children using Google+: Part I – The Facts
By: John Schafhauser
Google is one of the largest and most successful tech giants in the world today. In the past decade, Google has become as ubiquitous to the internet as McDonald’s restaurants have to the fast food industry. From humble beginnings as a search engine, Google has expanded its services to encompass a variety of functions. Of particular significance is Google+, Google’s answer to Facebook. According to Business Insider, Google+ is now the second-largest social networking site in the world, with approximately 359 million active users. One of the pioneering features of Google+ is the “Circles” feature, which enables users to seek, add, and group other Google+ users into personalized “Circles”, or followings. Google+ also allows its users to create and join “Communities”, or common interest groups. Lastly, Google+ generates a list of “Suggestions”, or people that user may know or may want to add to his/her “Circle.” for each user. “Suggestions” are made in several ways, most crucially, based on the content the user searches for and profile pages he/she visits.
While Google+ is one of the most innovative social networks on the Internet today, its rapid growth has been associated with serious repercussions for the safety and security of its users. In particular, its touted innovations, “Circles”, “Communities”, and “Suggestions”, represent tremendous privacy susceptibilities that may put users, especially children, at serious risk for unsolicited, explicit content, pornography, and even communications from suspected/convicted sexual predators and pedophiles. In an effort to expose the myriad of significant privacy and safety breaches that Google+ users have encountered, an investigation was performed from March to September 2013 by a tech industry whistleblower.
The investigation’s findings were then confirmed and compiled into a report by Consumer Watchdog, a non-profit organization dedicated to exposing social injustices and confronting the responsible industries. The report substantiates Consumer Watchdog’s assertion that Google+ is grossly negligent in ensuring that its users conform to Google’s User Content & Conduct Policy. This policy explicitly states that content that exploits children, such as child sexual abuse imagery must not be distributed. Additionally, the policy stresses that sexually explicit material (i.e. nudity, graphic sex acts, etc.) is expressly prohibited. Consumer Watchdog has since presented specific violations of this policy along with the report’s findings to Google, urging for immediate action to “police and clean up” Google+. The following is an outline of the most significant and troubling discoveries:
In response to Consumer Watchdog’s report, Google has shut down some accounts of apparent online predators and eliminated some explicit sexual content. However, a fatal flaw still remains and is garnering much criticism. Specifically, this is the ability to add others to a user’s “Circle” without obtaining permission. Pedophiles and those who wish to exploit children are still present, digitally stalking children as well as soliciting and sharing sexually explicit material. Clearly, massive overhaul needs to take place in Google’s policies relating to their social media platform.
The good news is Google is taking crucial steps to remedy the situation. Specifically, Google is innovating technology to block malicious internet search results linked to child abuse and sexually exploitative imagery involving children. The goal of this initiative is to not only block imagery but also guide those searching for this content towards help. According to Ruptly (British digital news source), this software is currently rolling out in the UK for a trial period, with plans to expand to other English-speaking countries and 158 other languages over the next six months. The hope is that this technology will soon extend to Google+ and further protect children across the world from sexual predators who use this medium. Google has not shied away from its onus in enabling predators. Rather it is making a highly concerted effort to team up with other tech giants, such as Microsoft, and stop the dissemination of exploitative content. The following statement by Google’s Executive Chairman, Eric Schmidt, may underscore Google’s ambition and commitment to protecting children:
“While society will never wholly eliminate such depravity [child sexual abuse], we should do everything in our power to protect children from harm,” – Eric Schmidt
While Part I covered the overarching issues of the Google+ situation, Part II, will investigate what we can do on an individual basis to prevent additional children from being exploited.
Report Cards: Channeling Negative Energy into Positive Results
For many school districts in New Jersey, January marks the end of another marking period and the close of the first half of the school year. You know what that means; report cards and progress reports are en route! This is a time of year that brings anxiety for both parents and students, but it also poses a wonderful opportunity for parents to enforce positive and encouraging behavior. If your child’s grades are less than ideal this season, instead of creating “punishment time”, create a “problem-solving time” and tackle the issues.
Tips for approaching report card time:
SIT DOWN with your child and look over the report card.
PRAISE YOUR CHILD. Find at least one good thing that they did right (e.g. attendance, class participation, etc.).
BE CALM! Let your child tell you about his/her grades.
ASK your child how you can help them do better.
DISCUSS what your child can do to make better grades.
MAKE A PLAN with your child’s teacher and your child to improve grades.
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Encourage your child to attend the teacher’s office hours after school. Are you frustrated with the student to teacher ratio? Well, after school office hours allow for students’ needs to be addressed in a more personalized and intimate setting. Thus, specific areas of trouble can be pinpointed and improved.
Encourage your child to spend time studying with their friends. Devote a portion of “hang-out time” to peer learning time where classmates review class notes and study for upcoming quizzes together. Reviewing notes consistently throughout the year helps to alleviate stress around exam time. Moreover, studying with friends makes for a more fun and interactive experience.
Get in the books! Read through the textbooks, learn some of the subject matter, and try to explain it to your child in a way you feel he/she will understand. After all, no one knows your child better than you!
Parents: What are YOUR Grades at Report Card Time?
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If you suspect that a child is being abused, please call 1-877-NJ-ABUSE (1-877-652-2873) and report your suspicions. Someone will address the report of alleged abuse within 24 hours of your call.
PCA-NJ and the NJ Partnership to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse today announced the selection of two additional communities to take part in a groundbreaking effort to end child sexual abuse in partnership with Prevent Child Abuse America and the Enough Abuse Campaign, originally pioneered by the Massachusetts Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Partnership.
The Committee on Missing & Abused Children of the Gloucester County Department of Human Services and The B.R.I.D.G.E Center (Middlesex County) were chosen as the fourth and fifth organizations in New Jersey to replicate the Enough Abuse Campaign throughout their communities.
The initiative’s goal is to educate every adult in the community about the true nature and scope of the epidemic and give them the tools and knowledge they need to better protect children. Studies continue to show that many parents believe the major risk of child sexual abuse involves “stranger danger”, when in reality, up to 90% of all cases are committed by someone known and trusted by the victim and family.
PCA-NJ will provide free training on the campaign’s curriculum, which will enable these local organizations to mobilize their own hyper-local initiatives in a way that can be adapted for their respective community’s needs.
“Child sexual abuse is a serious public health problem in New Jersey and causes devastating harm to victims. We congratulate these two communities for their courage and commitment to taking action now to prevent any child from being sexually abused and we look forward to expanding the network of committed communities statewide,” said Rush Russell, Executive Director of PCA-NJ.
With funding support from the Ms. Foundation for Women and Prevent Child Abuse America, PCA-NJ has established the NJ Partnership to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse. The Partnership brings together experts from every sector and region of the State who share a commitment to preventing child sexual abuse before it ever happens.
This is the second part of our two-part article discussing the issue of emotional abuse of children by parents or caregivers. Many of the readers of part one commented that the article asked the question about “where is that line that defines emotional abuse?”, but failed to provide a clear answer.
The simplest answer is there is no clear line, in the same way that we look at physical child abuse or child sexual abuse. In most cases, emotional abuse involves a pattern of overly critical, negative or harmful behavior over time and does not result from a single incident — although it could if it was severe enough. But if you shout at your child out of frustration, one time — that is not emotional abuse. But if it’s the only tool in your toolkit, so to speak, you may have a problem.
What can a mom or dad (or other caregiver) do if they wonder about their own parenting behavior?
First, recognize the types of emotional abuse that can occur. This list from the American Humane Society provides a helpful starting point. Again, remember that it involves a consistent pattern of behavior over time.
Second, and maybe most importantly, parents can take action to prevent emotional abuse. The list below, also from the American Humane Society, has helpful suggestions:
Parenting is one of life’s most magical experiences….but it can also be one of the most stressful. Get educated about the issue of emotional abuse. If you feel like you may be crossing the line, identify steps you can take to be more positive, patient and supportive of your child. If you still feel like you need help, contact Parents’ Anonymous, which offers confidential support groups and other services for stressed-out parents in New Jersey: 800-THE KIDS (800-843-5437).
In the last week, a bit more information has surfaced in the case in the NFL involving the two Miami Dolphin players, Richie Incognito and Jonathan Martin. Incognito has now admitted that, while he did not intend it that way, that much of his behavior towards Martin may have “crossed the line”, that it was embarrassing, and that it was perceived by Martin as being emotionally abusive. The case can serve as a valuable wake-up call for parents, to look in the mirror and assess your own behavior toward your children. A little quiet self-reflection now could prevent more serious consequences in the future.
In the past few days, one of the biggest stories in the media, even bigger than electing a new Mayor in New York City or the re-election of Governor Christie here in NJ, is the case of Jonathan Martin, an offensive lineman with the Miami Dolphins. Martin left the team after accusations of threatening behavior by another offensive lineman with the team, Richie Incognito. Although some of the descriptions of Incognito’s actions against Martin have been described as being “over the top, cruel, and crude,” other NFL players have defended Incognito as simply acting the same as hundreds of other NFL players have done for decades…that the type of “hazing” that is being described is deeply ingrained into the NFL locker room. And many people from many backgrounds have also weighed in, saying that the definition of “bullying” that can devastate child victims, does not apply to 300-pound grown men being paid millions of dollars to play a violent game.
But the case also highlights the difficult challenge of understanding or defining what constitutes “emotional abuse”…in this case, not involving grown men on an NFL football team, but of parents raising their own children. What is emotional abuse? Nearly every parent has, at some point, lost their temper with their children and yelled at them in anger. But is that abuse? If it happens rarely, of course not. But if it happens frequently, where is the line? Parents may criticize their children for failing to do something, from cleaning up their room, to making a poor grade at school. Dealing with criticism is part of life and children, like everyone else, must learn from both their accomplishments and their failures. But if a parent’s only tool is criticism, or does so in a consistent and mean-spirited way that belittles a child, is that abuse? Where is the line? Can it hurt children in ways that affect their futures?
Research shows that like other forms of child abuse, emotional abuse can leave permanent scars on a child for the rest of their life, including increasing the risk for mental health problems, substance abuse, other chronic health problems, and problems with relationships and jobs.
Why does emotional abuse happen? Again, it usually happens due to similar factors associated with other forms of child abuse and neglect, including a lack of knowledge about positive parenting and healthy child development, a lack of positive role models in one’s own life, and overwhelming stress caused by life’s many challenges – a lack of money, relationship problems, job stress or mental health issues. Any one of these factors can increase a parent’s frustration with their child, but alcohol use, added to stress, can be the volatile fuel that explodes frustration into true abusive behavior.
All parents should be aware of the harm that can happen to children from emotional abuse….but also understand that emotional abuse involves a pattern of persistent parental behavior, not an isolated incident. Studies show how remarkably resilient children can be, even after experiencing traumatic events. But research also shows that children’s healthy physical, emotional and brain development can be permanently marred by incidents of abuse and children who experience such trauma are more likely to repeat the behavior as adults themselves, and experience increased risk for a wide variety of health problems as they move from childhood to adolescence to adulthood.
What are the types of emotional abuse that can help parents review their own behavior and see where it fits? Come back next week for a second part of this article that will define the types of behavior that constitute emotional abuse, and more importantly, will include ideas that every parent can use to prevent emotional abuse.
For more information please visit: www.preventchildabusenj.org.
“I saw a mother spanking one of my students, is that child abuse?” “A friend of mine leaves her toddler home alone whileshe goes to work, is that neglect?” People are sometimes unsure of what exactly denotes child abuse. Because the definition of child abuse may be considered unknown territory for many people, they may rationalize abusive behavior as discipline techniques, allowing actual cases of child abuse to go unreported.
Federal law defines child abuse and neglect as:
“Any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation; or an act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm”
The State of New Jersey adds that this abuse or neglect is considered child abuse or neglect when inflicted on children ages 18 or younger by a parent or caregiver. Unfortunately, this definition is not widely known and people often have incorrect information when assessing abusive behavior.
Some common misconceptions around child abuse are:
Child abuse doesn’t happen in good families. Yes, it does. Child abuse can happen to anyone, anywhere, regardless of socioeconomic status, race or culture. Everyone suffers from stress and frustrations at some point in their lives, which is a risk factor for committing child abuse.
Most child abusers are strangers. Wrong. Data shows that most abusers are family members and in the case of child sexual abuse, known to the child and his/her family.
It’s only abuse if it’s violent. Wrong, again. There are many forms of abuse that do not involve any physical attacks against children, such as emotional abuse and neglect,
The major forms of child maltreatment as outlined in the federal definition are: physical abuse, neglect, emotional abuse and sexual abuse.
Physical abuse is described as physical harm or injury to a child, regardless of intent. Signs of this type of abuse include unexplained bruises, burns, fractures, or abrasions as well as extreme aggressiveness or withdrawal. Physically abused children may also be afraid to go home or be around their parents or other adults. When making the distinction between abuse and discipline, it is important to note that with physical abuse, the child is unable to predict the parent’s behavior; parents are lashing out in anger in an effort to assert control rather than lovingly teaching their child, and are using fear to control their child.
Neglect is the failure of a parent or caregiver to provide the basic needs for their child. This includes a failure to provide adequate food, clothing, shelter, education or medical care for their child though they are in a financial position to do so. Similar to physical abuse, neglect may not be intentional. Parents sometimes become physically or mentally unable to care for their children properly. Signs of neglected children include hunger, poor hygiene, unattended physical problems or medical needs, begging, stealing food, staying late in school and constant fatigue.
Emotional Abuse involves behavior that impairs a child’s emotional development and sense of self. Examples of this form of abuse are rejection, constant criticism and withholding love and affection. Children experiencing this abuse may exhibit symptoms of conduct disorders, habit disorders, or neurotic traits. They may also act more mature or younger for their age.
Sexual Abuse involves sexual activities, such as fondling, penetration, rape, indecent exposure and exploitation, by a parent or caregiver on a child. Physical contact is not always necessary in sexual abuse. Just exposing a child to sexual situations and material is also considered sexual abuse. This form of abuse is unfortunately most often committed by someone close to the child, like a close relative and affects both girls and boys. Victims are often burdened with feelings of shame and guilt. Victims often have difficulty walking or sitting, are unwilling to change for gym class, may be withdrawn, have an unusually mature knowledge of sexual behavior, may have poor peer relationships and may run away.
All these forms of abuse can have devastating and long-lasting effects on victims. Maltreated children are at risk for developmental and cognitive delays, as well as emotional difficulties. They are also at higher risk for medical problems as the stress of the trauma negatively affects their nervous system and immune system development. They may also manifest symptoms of borderline personality disorder, depression, anxiety and many other psychological disorders. As a way to cope, victims may also turn to drugs, alcohol and delinquent behavior.
It is our goal at Prevent Child Abuse New Jersey to stop abuse and neglect from ever happening to any of New Jersey’s children. Each child deserves a happy, healthy and safe childhood. Through our many programs, we work to educate parents on proper parenting techniques, including ways to prevent Shaken-Baby Syndrome, aid parents in overcoming stresses that may cause frustration and lead to abuse, prevent child sexual abuse by educating parents on how to identify sexual predators and making policy changes, and working with teen parents to ensure they graduate without a second pregnancy and with the necessary skills for raising their children. Our programs are empirically supported and are successful in supplying parents with the knowledge they need to raise healthy and safe children.
If you or anyone you know has reasonable cause to believe that a child is being abused, you are required by New Jersey law to make a report by calling 1-877-NJ-ABUSE (1-877-652-2873). All calls are anonymous. As soon as the report is made, an investigation on the alleged abuse and neglect will be conducted within the next 24 hours.
What is Child Abuse and Neglect? Recognizing Signs and Symptoms: https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/whatiscan.pdf#page=1&view=Introduction
Long-Term Consequences of Child Abuse and Neglect: https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/long_term_consequences.pdf#page=5&view=Behavioral%20Consequences
Child Abuse & Neglect: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
Nearly everyone recognizes the Super Bowl as one of the grandest of all sporting and TV events in the U.S. With the Super Bowl coming to the MetLife Stadium in New Jersey next February, the state’s tourist industry will receive a welcome boost in revenue from the sold-out stadium, parties, events and attending celebrities.
But what many people are shocked to learn, according to Attorneys General in states which have hosted the event, is that the Super Bowl is regarded as the largest “sex trafficking event” in the country each year. Sex trafficking is an illegal business operation where traffickers use fraud, coercion or threats of violence to force women, sometimes men, and – alarmingly — quite often children into prostitution. Research studies confirm that it causes devastating harm to victims, destroying lives and dramatically increasing the risk of mental health problems, drug abuse and suicide. A very high percentage of victims have suffered a previous incident of child sexual abuse, making them more vulnerable to exploitation by traffickers who prey on their unmet needs.
Many people think sex trafficking only happens in other countries – for example, in Thailand, which has become infamous for its ties to prostitution and trafficking. Or that sex trafficking may happen here in the U.S., but it only happens to foreign-born victims who are brought into the U.S.
The reality is that sex trafficking happens everywhere in the United States, including here in NJ, and that our citizens are at risk for being trafficked. The FBI and the NJ Attorney General have found cases in nearly every part of our state. Atlantic City, with the influx of tourists and money, has struggled with trafficking for years.
NJ also faces a special risk from sex trafficking due to its proximity to New York City. Many young women (and girls under age 18) move to NYC with the dreams of becoming a model or actress. Traffickers know how to take advantage, offering vulnerable women gifts, money, and false promises…that quickly turn into threats, entrapment and violence. Because New Jersey is a transit hub, complete with highways, ports, and an extensive public transportation system, people move relative easily and inconspicuously, across the state and across the state’s borders. And of course, New Jersey faces struggles with illegal drugs, gangs and other factors that make it easy for traffickers to conduct their business and not be caught.
Who’s at risk? Shockingly, the average age of a girl entering sex trafficking is 12-14. A girl who becomes alienated from her parents and runs away can easily be lured into trafficking by a trafficker posing as a boyfriend who offers help and a place to stay. Studies show that a runaway girl will be approached by someone in the trafficking industry within 48 hours of hitting the street. Youth who may be lesbian, gay, or transgender are especially vulnerable because they are often already treated as “outcasts” by their own family or community, and therefore can become a target for traffickers.
What can we do? Everyone can be more vigilant by knowing these facts. If you see a girl or boy you think could be caught up in trafficking, call the Polaris Project, a nationwide hotline that will help you decide what you saw and what to do. The number is 888 3737 888. There are many new efforts, led by our Department of Children and Families and the Attorney General, to educate people statewide about the warning signs and what you can do. Prevent Child Abuse NJ will be leading efforts to work with girls and boys who live in high-risk situations, such as runaway shelters, to prevent them from becoming involved in the commercial sex industry.
The Super Bowl will be an incredible happening for the state of New Jersey; with your help, we can also protect our children from being caught up in a human tragedy and horrific crime.
Preparing your home for a baby takes a lot of planning and a little creativity. When it comes to baby-proofing your home, you should never underestimate your baby’s number one talent: transforming everyday household items into safety hazards.
September is Baby Safety Awareness Month, which means that now is a great time to evaluate the security of your home. In the U.S., the leading cause of death among infants and toddlers is preventable household accidents.
Read through the following baby safety tips to make sure that your home is as secure as possible for your baby. You may even want to print these tips and keep them on your refrigerator. There’s a lot to remember when it comes to baby-proofing your home; it might help to read through these tips as a reminder every once in a while.
These are only some of the home safety tips you need to remember when it comes to keeping your baby safe. You may want to try getting down on your baby’s level to see if there are any safety hazards you are overlooking. If you crawl around your home, you may discover small items, such as coins, that could present choking hazards.
You should also remember that in order to keep your baby secure, you need to keep your home secure in general. Make sure you take appropriate fire prevention measures and install carbon monoxide detectors in your home to prevent carbon monoxide poisoning. Remember, your baby is relying on you to keep your house secure.